What is Legal isn’t always what is Right.
What is Ethical isn’t always what is Nice.
What is Necessary isn’t always what is Kind.
I’ve read a lot lately about ‘finding balance.’ And I think what they usually mean is ‘finding peace.’ Which finding serenity in this world is a lovely thing. But any such state will always be temporary, and it’s understanding and appreciating that that helps us mature, smile, and stay sane in the turbulence.
Life is not about ‘finding balance.’ It’s about making decisions. The choices you make and the actions you take are what decide who you are. Sometimes that line, of what is ‘right or wrong’ is not always clear. Those are the moments when you decide who you are.
There is nothing wrong with being a ‘nice person.’ We like nice people. We also tend to forget them sometimes. On the other end, we claim to admire people with conviction. Yet there have been some horrible people throughout history that had a lot of conviction in what they did.
The point I’m getting at in all of this is that it’s okay. Sometimes there just are no ‘right answers’, there’s just the answer that makes the most sense to us at the time. Invariably, there will be aftermath to these decisions, leaving us ever wondering ‘did I make the wrong decision?’
You did if you made your decision from selfishness, smallness, meanness, hate or any other such places. Sometimes even good intentions can lead to terrible decisions if they are made with insight.
So look around you. How can you make this day better? How can you improve your life? How can you make someone else’s day better? How can you help someone you care about improve their life?
If you make your decisions with a little love in your heart, learn from your experiences (and the experiences of others so you don’t have to make those same mistakes), and take a moment to absorb what is going on around you and how this moment, this choice will affect that world; either positively or negatively; then you will be able to look back on a life of choices well made.
It won’t be an easy life. It won’t be a simple one. There will be moments of doubt, confusion, fear and turbulence that no training will completely prepare you for. But if you focus on the betterment you can make of the given situation, you will have a life you can look back on and be proud of.
And there’s your serenity. Your peace. Your ‘balance.’
Left from a friend on another site: Türkçi ögrenmek istiyorum - May she always teach you. :)
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